Forgiveness
"Whenever we forgive ourselves or others, a piece of you root emotion – pain, hurt, anger, fear, hopelessness – dies, and a piece of our future is born."
Steps to Forgiveness
1. Identify the person (this may include yourself) as well as the event or circumstance that you want to explore in terms of forgiveness. When did it happen? Where did it happen?
2. Close your eyes. Replay the most recent event in your mind in as much detail as possible. Identify the feeling or emotions that arise (anger, disappointment, deception etc.) Notice if you feel any physical manifestations of the event in your body, a place where there may be pain, tension etc... This may be a sign that you still are holding onto emotions attached to the event.
3. Now you have a decision to make. Do you want to forgive the person (or yourself)? Why? Why not? Think about why you may be resisting.
4. Explore the reasons that you may be keeping the emotions inside you. Are there some positive reasons, what can you learn from this situation?
5. Can you try and be compassionate and understanding towards the other person (or yourself)? Why did the person hurt you (or why did you hurt someone)? Put yourself in their shoes. What did this person (or you) need? What led this person to this behaviour (past events, past relationships, childhood problems)?
6. The actual act of forgiveness comes next. It is a very personal act and can be done privately without the knowledge or participation of the other person. It helps to see the person (or yourself) as an innocent child. Close your eyes and visualize yourself face to face with the person as a child and feel feelings of compassion, love and understanding towards the person. Feel a connection at the level of the heart center. Tell the person that you understand what they did and why they did it. Forgive them, hug them and then release them.
7. Keep your eyes closed and bring your attention back to your body. As you think again about the original painful incident or person, notice if the physical manifestations have dispersed or are still in your body. If you have truly forgiven, you will feel a lightness, warmth, and an openness. You have released an emotional pain and there is now more room for love. Feel yourself opening to the love within.
8. If you haven’t noticed enough of a shift, then perhaps you are still attached to the pain, fearing this event may happen again to you. When you are truly ready try again by repeating the steps above. If you need help, consult a practitioner.
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